About two days ago, an incident happened that got me very angry, for someone who almost never gets angry, you can only imagine the level of anger I was at, the type that makes you feel a knot in your tummy and you just want to scream and slam something. Well, I knew I immediately had to leave the scene, there was no point being there anymore and sticking around would have
only led to two things;
1. Harsh words that can’t be taken back
2. Actions that’ll be worse than what prompted the anger.
One thing was sure if I hadn’t left the scene, “REGRET”
I asked myself why I was so mad, asides from the obvious fact of what had happened Ofcourse and I realized it was the because I felt like my pain/anger felt irrelevant because what actually happened wouldn’t have been seen as a big deal to anyone else, and it made me much more furious but I said to myself, my pain is valid, my anger was justified and me being able to control myself even made it more justifiable.
In this light, I’ll be sharing basic tips to controlling your anger.
I’m not a certified therapist and I hardly get angry so I might not be in the best position to give tips,
but I hope these help.
1. Leave the scene of the incident, there is literally nothing left for you there. LEAVE!
2. Again, the scene of the incident will only make you even more furious, LEAVE.
3. Understand that your pain is valid, you’ve been hurt and you did not deserve it.
4. Take a walk, a drive, keep busy. In doing this, you’ll clear your head and can then make the right decision in addressing what had happened from a critical point of thinking and not the point of mere anger.
5. Talk to someone, this is called “ranting”. This has such a relieving effect you can never overestimate, it helps you free all your built up emotions. You’d be surprised you’ll find yourself laughing at the end of the conversation and you’ll start to wonder why you were so mad in the first place.
6)Address the issue, you can now talk to the person that made you angry, this is extremely important so such incident will not occur again, for if it does, these tips might really not come in handy the next time.
I hope this helps.
PS, when I’m not in control of a situation such as this, I practice taking in deep breathes for about a minute. It goes a long way in helping.
All my love.