To Each His Own

Okay, so earlier today, a friend and I had to run some errands, so we decided to take a drive together… a song came on and he goes ohh it’s been a while I heard about her, I remember when her husband cheated…and then he goes “she did well”
This, he meant by she not leaving him, she did well and it was impressive
I kept quiet for about 3 seconds and I’m like nope, I can’t let this pass, what do you mean by she did well, so the woman who knows she can’t condone infidelity and chooses to leave for her sanity didn’t do well because she chose herself??
The woman who knows the exact limit she can get to before drowning, thereby keeping herself afloat didn’t do well because she chose to survive??
And who are we to judge what’s right or wrong about what decisions people make for their lives.
I’m like I’m not saying the lady in subject didn’t do well for staying, but don’t go around thinking the other “didn’t do well” for knowing fully well and being sure she can’t live in a certain way.
Yes you can choose to forgive your spouse for whatever reason, and even stay with them, but forgiveness does not mean you have to keep taking it, you can forgive, you can let go yet choose to leave.
I’m not saying everyone should leave once something goes wrong, but don’t make other people feel less of themselves for doing what’s best for them!
To each his own!!!!
If you know you cannot take it and it will break you, you don’t have to care who chooses to see you “didn’t do well”, who’s keeping scores anyway and who made them the chairperson of the affairs of your life???
Stay if you can, it’s okay
Leave if you can’t, still very much okay!
As if at the end of the day, there’s a trophy for “who did well” and who didn’t… Iranu
And guess what, on this same ride, he asked how come someone’s a Tom boy, doesn’t she want to get married?🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️
It was at this point I knew I was done!🙄

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